Hey you! Yes, you! I am most definitely directing this post to you or anyone you know who needs a good pep talk (…or pep read…or pep words…oh, who the hell knows).
Go look in the mirror.
I will wait for you.
Take a few minutes of mirror time and examine yourself intently…
You didn’t take the time to go find a mirror, did you? Damn. This pep talk will only work if you go find a mirror and stare at yourself first BUT I can’t make you do anything you don’t want to do so I guess I will have to start anyway, so here it goes (Disclaimer: the following post may be deemed corny or cheesy by some standards. Reader discretion is advised):
You are a beautiful and unique individual who has a gift to offer this world. Do you know what that is? If you do, you are one of the fortunate ones. If you don’t, then you have some exploring to do and everyone loves a good adventure! Identify what you are good at and what you have a gravitational pull towards. You will probably find your gift along the way.
Be kind to yourself. We are all our harshest critics and though there is no shame in being self-aware, we have to remember to be our biggest fans as well. Life is too short to be spending 100 percent of your life with a person you are not in love with (just don’t take it to the level that Narcissus did). Remind yourself of not only your accomplishments but also your utter and complete failures. Failure is how our egos get bruised but how our spirit gets stronger.
Be kind to others. Everyone has baggage. Everyone. Some people deal with it better than others. Some don’t. These are the people who need kindness the most. They lash out because they are hurting and they don’t know any other way to deal with it except to hurt others. A smile or even just a small compliment may make all of the difference to them. If your kindness still doesn’t help, wipe your hands of the situation and know that you did what you could. After all, some people are just dicks.
Love the skin you are in and wear it well. Everyone has flaws or various physical traits that they would change. Especially us women! Know that this is your suit. It is the only skin you are going to wear for the rest of your life so you better get comfortable in it. Own every imperfection on your body. It is what makes you unique and quite beautiful. Scars and stretch marks are the physical reminders of what our bodies have been through. Your body tells a story that you had a hand in writing. Remember that and cherish it.
In this life we have ups, downs, and plateaus.
If you are currently experiencing an “up” phase, savor this time. Enjoy every second and breathe it all in. Preserve it and take more pictures than you know what to do with.
The same goes for those experiencing a plateau, unless it is the “I’m not doing anything with my life” plateau, then you need to change it up. So change it! Do you want to know something else that is incredible about you? You are in the driver’s seat of your own life. You get to decide when to step on the brakes or the gas. When to go left, right or to keep going straight ahead. That is all up to you.
Now, if you are finding yourself in a down and dark moment of your life, I’m so sorry. I call them life’s bitch slaps. You don’t see them coming and they hurt like hell. There are no words that anyone can say to make the hurt lessen or your heart to unbreak. You have to go through it to come out the other side and that is just the way it goes. Just remember, the difficult times are what defines you as a person. You get stronger in all aspects when go through rough times and it will make you appreciate those “up” phases so much more.
Lastly, focus on today. Forgive and let go of whatever has a hold on you from the past and surrender any worry you have about the future. Today is the only day that is guaranteed to happen, so keep striving to be the best version of yourself.
Thanks for reading this pep talk. I needed that!
Feel free to share this post with anyone who may need to read it. Lord knows we all need a good pep talk from time to time.