This blog has been building for awhile in this head of mine and I have been hesitant about writing it for two reasons:
1. I am pretty sure it is going to make me come across as a nagging, negative nelly of a wife.
2. I never want to throw my husband (P) under a bus (unless it’s that time of the month), and I am quite sure that this blog is going to do that.
This is my thought this morning…screw it. I need a place to vent! I mean isn’t that why ALL of my fellow bloggers started writing in the first place?
Anyone that reads this blog on a regular basis knows that P and I are “trying” (aka “struggling”) to get out of debt. There are months that we take several steps forward, then there are times that we decide to stop trying and take bigger leaps back. I think I finally figured out what one of our biggest issues is:
Don’t get me wrong, I think it is a beautiful thing when someone has hobbies. Having hobbies means that we are able to focus on various projects and activities that we are passionate about, and passionate people make the world go round.
I just think there is a HUGE amount of financial discrepancy between P and I’s hobbies.
Let me break it down for you.
OUR MUTUAL HOBBIES
Yes, this one is our most expensive ones, but we usually try to fit in one vacation every couple of years (if we can afford it or not). Our thought process is this: You only live once. So when the opportunity to go to Mexico or Hawaii comes along just put it on the credit card and figure it out later. Not a good mentality.
P and I are so fortunate to live in such a beautiful part of the country! There are some Sundays when we take the Jeep (ugh…the “jeep”…more on that later) and just drive. We also love taking the dogs and going on some gorgeous hikes!
P and I are HUGE foodies! We love food, but who doesn’t? Going out to eat should be a luxury for us, given our debt situation BUT it happens at least a couple of times a week. This hobby is probably one of the hobbies we need to work on being less passionate about!
I have loved reading since I was a wee one and I typically don’t spend any money for books. I either go to the library or buy books with money or gift cards I receive as birthday/Christmas presents.
Another free hobby that I LOVE!
Besides the initial cost of the camera, taking pictures is something that also happens to be fabulous and free. I mostly enjoy taking nature shots and pics of my cute little animals (Juju, Orville, and Scully). Yes, I realize taking regular photo shoots of my animals is kind of sad but aren’t they just too adorable for words?!
All things Bravo
Andy Cohen is the SHIT when it comes to tapping into what
a twenty-something…okay I can’t lie to even you guys about my age…a thirty-something wants to watch for brainless entertainment. Since we don’t have cable, I do have to buy episodes online of my Real Housewives.
The Jeep (Just Empty Every Pocket)
My hubby loves the other woman in his life. His damn Jeep. He spends much more time with her than me and has spent thousands on tires and accessories. Not to mention that this bitch is one gas guzzler. Another annoying part about owning a Jeep: You have to WAVE at everyone else who is driving a Jeep when you are in a Jeep. Some people wave but others ignore you and then your feelings get hurt.
Between the price of guns, ammo, time at shooting ranges, and accessories, this is almost on par with the money we spend on traveling. P wants to get into shooting competitions too. He sees fun, I see even more dollar signs.
I will say, P has been much better about buying video games lately. He still has a collection of hundreds of games that were anywhere from $30-$60 a pop, but he has gotten better.
Price: Normal people ($$), my husband ($$$$$$$$$)
P loves camping and being out in the woods with nature. This girl needs a toilet and AC. One day when we get an RV I will happily join him on his excursions out to the woods. This weekend my husband went out camping sans me to shoot guns, ride ATVs, drink and pee outside. Man stuff. Normally camping is a great way to get away for cheap. Well this lady checked our bank account and found that he spent several hundred dollars on three days of camping. WTF!!!! He gets home today, so their will definitely be an interrogation waiting for him (of course this will be after I kiss and love on him and tell him how much I miss him). He may have to try to “Sharon Stone” his way out of this one.
I’m not saying I’m a savings angel and P is my Tasmanian spending devil (but I am implying it *wink*). I’m just saying that there is a huge difference financially in what we spend our money on in our free time. P works hard and I work hard…sort of. If we weren’t in such a financial hole I would definitely be more apt to loosen the purse strings for myself and let things go more with what he spends his money on. The truth is that we are in debt and I don’t want to be in debt forever. I know many people think that it is a part of life to have a car payment, a house payment, student loan debt, and credit card debt, but I don’t want that to be our story.
Anybody out there feel the same? Is it just me or does your spouse also have more expensive hobbies than you? How do you deal with it?
Thanks for letting me vent guys!